What to Do When You “Just Can’t”- Seven Steps for Comfort
“I just can’t.”
“I don’t have anything left.”
That’s a sad, bad place to be, but we’ve all been there. Running our hands through our hair, over and over and over because it’s the most soothing thing we can find right now…
There are no words for the desperate feeling. Your heart may as well be twisted into an untangleable knot. Maybe a loved one has needs, but we have nothing; NOTHING to offer them now. It’s a life and death challenge for our own soul, let alone, take care of their needs.
I can’t include “Eat well” or “Sleep well” on my list. Those are good if you are stressed, but if you’re truly at the point of “I just can’t,” you are only existing. I feel your pain. I empathize.
BREATHE. Please know that you are loved and appreciated just for being you. Soon, your heart will unhinge, unravel, and beat steadily again. This empty pit of a feeling is just a phase. It’s just a stage. You will come out stronger in the end. There’s hope.
- Sarah Belle Cassidy
Sarah Belle Cassidy is a wife and stay at home mother to four kids, two girls and two boys, ages 17, 15, 12 and 2. She once owned a small-town coffee shop/restaurant for eight years, was an apprentice electrician, and homeschooled her oldest three children for eight years.
After 20 years of marriage, three children, a divorce, remarriage, and a tag-a-long child at "40-something," Sarah is learning to put the oxygen mask on herself first, and THEN attend to the various needs of a busy family. She says, "Coffee, love, humor, music, research, and plenty of hugs are my fuel."