Holding Space for Others Through Getting to Know Thyself
Angela Catenaro
Practicing mindfulness means being aware of the present moment. A part of this is knowing how you choose to respond to life’s ups and downs and how you intend to show up each moment of each day. I love observing human behaviour and learning about what makes us tick. When I was younger, this curiosity of understanding human behaviour got me stuck in wanting to figure out what made another person – what their motives were or what got them to do/say what they did - I forgot to get clear on me. Through the desire of living mindfully, now when my mind wants to understand another, I explore, I question, I seek to understand, and then I gently turn the exploration inward. How do I do this?
With this inquisitive mind I have been blessed with, I have the uncanny gift to understand the bigger picture and to see the connectedness of a situation. However, I have been granted the wisdom to now know that I do not know what is best for someone else. It is not up to me to tell someone what they should do or how they should live their life. What is up to me is to know what is best for me. It is up to me to know how I desire to live my life. I need to get clear on my own intentions and my own values to guide me in my life. As a Spiritual Life Coach, I desire to share these tools with others in an authentic loving way. Through knowing my life’s purpose of communicating the divine’s love and wisdom, I know that it is not my right to tell someone how to live or what is best for them. I am solely the guide who holds space for another to help them find the answers on their own, in their own time, in their own comfort, within their own heart. Holding space for others and myself has helped me heal the part of me that had expected to change or fix someone else’s problems. We don’t have all the answers but choosing to live mindfully can show you your way while living by example, and releasing the need to control, fix, or save others. Namaste ~ ~ ~ Angela Catenaro A Drop of Loving Kindness n |
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