Listen to Your Heart
By Martha Eleftheriou
We’ve all been there- the feeling that there’s something just not right about how we feel around someone. This could be someone we have known for many years or someone we have just met, but there’s a feeling somewhere in our guts and hearts that makes us feel uncomfortable whenever we are around this person.
For many years I ignored this feeling and listened to my head instead of my heart.
What I have come to recently learn is that our own soul’s evolution (if we let it) brings us on an interesting and unexpected journey with many different roads full of twists, turns and unexpected events along the way. Over the years, my transformation has shed much light on myself and on all of my relationships. I realized that some of the relationships I once enjoyed did not feel fulfilling or enjoyable as they once did. As I began shifting my personal life focus, I realized I needed to lovingly let go of the people whom I felt were not in alignment with my core values.
You may have experienced something similar with some of your relationships. It is important to remember that there is nothing wrong or bad with the person we no longer resonate with, but rather, it’s about our growth, our evolution and learning to live our lives with authenticity. What I learned is that not everyone will understand our journeys and why we need to do the things we do. That’s okay! What’s most important is for us to understand ourselves and get real, clear and authentic with ourselves!
I once heard spiritual teacher Iyanla Vanzant say, “Tell yourself the truth about yourself because if you don’t someone else will and it will hurt way more!”
I have never forgotten those words. I committed to telling myself the truth about myself, and to honouring my feelings when I felt there was something “off” about someone. I began to learn to trust my gut instinct and my intuition. The more I practiced trusting my heart instead of my head, the more I was able to see that I really did know what was best for myself and my growth.
When we say no to some people, we are actually saying yes to something else. We are saying yes to ourselves! We are saying yes to our souls who have been lovingly nudging us over the years to be true to ourselves and to live our lives with as much passion, purpose and fulfillment as we can! This is not an easy decision or process. It will be difficult and painful for everyone involved, but I wholeheartedly believe that in lovingly letting someone go, you are opening the door for new opportunities and the right people for your divine life’s purpose.
As I look back over the years and experiences with different people in my life, some whom are still around and some whom are not, I am choosing to be grateful for the experiences, the fun and the good times. With an attitude of gratitude for what was, I am equally grateful for having the courage to be true to myself and to move forward in my life listening to my heart instead of my head.
(stay tuned for the next article on how to lovingly let someone go)
All my love, Martha
Martha Eleftheriou is married and a mother to two beautiful daughters ages 8 and 1 years old. She is a transformational and spiritual Life Coach, a certified elementary school teacher (OCT), Reiki Master and Yoga Teacher (RYT). Aside from passionately working with people in helping them to uncover their dreams and purpose, she loves reading, writing fiction and non-fiction, as well as taking regular nature walks. On the inside, she is an eternal soul seeker. She loves to question, ask, learn, un-learn, re-learn and live her life as true to her core values of love, compassion, honesty, and service as best as she possibly can. She lives with her family in King City, Ontario, Canada.