Magnificent Mothers
Mother's Day Event - 2018
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Questions help us find answers!
To celebrate Mother's Day 2018 we are asking our Mindful Moms
5 Questions to celebrate Moms, create community, and help all our moms discover their Magnificence!
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Questions help us find answers!
To celebrate Mother's Day 2018 we are asking our Mindful Moms
5 Questions to celebrate Moms, create community, and help all our moms discover their Magnificence!
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See how our Mindfulness Mothers answered the 5 Questions!
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~ A ~
1. How many kids do you have? Their ages?
One son and he is almost 11 months old 2. Special needs or attributes? -- In your kids or yourself? I have a traumatic brain injury, PTSD, chronic regional pain syndrome (CRPS), and chronic pain that comes with limitations. My son has Cystic Fibrosis which requires daily medications, extra precautions, chest physical therapy at least twice a day, a special diet, and a lot of doctor appointments. 3. Do you feel pressure to be perfect? How and why? Of course! I would love to meet a Mom who doesn't. It seems that no matter how you do things as a parent there will be someone who is against what you are doing. Society now judges based on one single moment they witnessed and is really quick to call CPS. Family and friends give unsolicited advice which makes you feel like you're doing it wrong and have to be perfect. By having a child with a progressive, life shortening disease we also feel graded and critiqued by his doctors who we speak to several times a month. If his health isn't as great as it can be than we are treated like we are the cause despite giving everything we've got. It's a lot, and stress doesn't help anyone. 4. If you had total freedom to do whatever you wanted to do (your kids and family and friends are all taken care of, you have all the money you want, and no physical limitation.) what ONE thing would you do right now, here, today? I had to think a lot on this one as I kept thinking with everyone else in mind. It has been a long time since I have thought of my needs. On the simplistic side? I would curl up with a smoothie and snack and read a book. Bigger? I would travel back to the Scottish Highlands, eat all the things, talk to the locals, and take pictures while breathing in the ocean air. It would be amazing. 5. If you had one piece of advice to give a mother who was struggling today, what would it be? (What would you have wanted to hear when you were having a tough time?) First, take a deep breath. You're doing great. The advice? Be present. There are a million things in this world that will distract you and demand your attention. Whenever able, push to be present with your children, with your family. I will never regret playing with my son. Time is already flying by and this time with him is priceless. Oh, and be kind to yourself. Life is hard enough without you being your own bully. |
~ K ~
1. How many kids do you have? Their ages?
2 girls, ages 6 & 13. 2. Special needs or attributes? -- In your kids or yourself? My oldest is a beautiful dancer & my youngest is an amazing artist. My oldest had bad asthma when she was smaller, but it seems to be under control for the most part. That was hard when she was little because it limited her activity and always sent her to the hospital in the winter. I'm so glad she is healthier now. 3. Do you feel pressure to be perfect? How and why? Always. Owning a yoga studio causes me to have high expectations of myself and to always try and help those around me or to be a role model of living the "yoga life". I want to be perfect for our community. So the pressure is totally from me onto me- I don't think anyone else has that expectation of :) 4 .If you had total freedom to do whatever you wanted to do (your kids and family and friends are all taken care of, you have all the money you want, and no physical limitation.) what ONE thing would you do right now, here, today? Run a yoga community and plant the biggest garden you have ever seen. 5. If you had one piece of advice to give a mother who was struggling today, what would it be? (What would you have wanted to hear when you were having a tough time?) Deep breaths. It won't always be this hard. I love you. ______ Optional Questions: What city/state do you live in? Mount Pleasant, MI Approx age you had kids? 30 Have you worked outside the home? How old were your kids? YES I taught full time for a year when my youngest was born and have worked part time ever since. I opened my wellness center 2 years ago (that's a full time plus job...) |
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1. How many kids do you have? Their ages?
I have two girls, 13 and 15. 2. Special needs or attributes? -- In your kids or yourself? My 13 year old daughter is highly sensitive, but lacks empathy. She is intelligent and active, but struggles with social anxiety and confidence. She is more of a risk taker and less cautious. Whatever she attempts she does to the fullest with passion. My 15 daughter is adopted from Guatemala. She is empathetic and social, but struggles academically. She tends to move slowly through life. She lacks a sense of time, urgency, and order. She loves to help people, especially with their social issues. She’s artist, but is challenged with trying new things. My children are both opposites. I find myself in the middle, although I lean toward my younger daughter’s personality type. 3. Do you feel pressure to be perfect? How and why? Yes, I feel pressure to be perfect. This is an internal pressure I place on myself. It stems from my upbringing. My mother had a perfectly kept house. She did not like conflict or chaos. Chaos brings anxiety forward. In order to quell this feeling, I overcompensate by trying to control it. Perfection is part of this control. After experiencing a traumatic event in childhood, the feelings became stronger. 4 .If you had total freedom to do whatever you wanted to do (your kids and family and friends are all taken care of, you have all the money you want, and no physical limitation.) what ONE thing would you do right now, here, today? Leave and start walking the Camino in Spain. I love Spain, walking, and freedom to do what I want and be who I am. 5. If you had one piece of advice to give a mother who was struggling today, what would it be? (What would you have wanted to hear when you were having a tough time?) To the mother struggling I say stop, breathe, and rest. Find what brings you joy and do that at least once a day. I walk outside daily. I do yoga multiple times a week, and I write and read. These activities bring me peace and pleasure. Determine what works for you and treat yourself. Have compassion for yourself and your family. Their response is a reflection of their internal struggle. Don’t take it personally. Step back or away, for a moment. Learn to respond and to go with the flow. Stability is found in the flow. ______ Optional Questions: What city/state do you live in? Cannonsburg, Michigan Approx age you had kids? I was 39 when my daughter was born. I was 42 when my adopted daughter came home. Have you worked outside the home? How old were your kids? I worked outside the home for twenty years in corporate America. I worked during my pregnancy, until my bio daughter was three, then I retired when my adopted daughter came home. She was five. Nothing harder, nothing better, than being a parent. |
~ M ~1. How many kids do you have? Their ages?
2 Kids, ages 8 and 10 2. Special needs or attributes? -- In your kids or yourself? My daughter is am empathetic kid and very bold and has strong emotions. She also has celiac/gluten issue think this label has always allowed her to feel “different.” My son is highly intelligent with a high IQ as well as Emotionally intelligent Myself- I am have all the above mentioned attributes :) 3. Do you feel pressure to be perfect? How and why? I know that perfection is not logical, I never really think of myself as a perfectionist, but I do have high expectations for myself, higher than I have for others, which is funny because then I feel pressure, not from others, but from myself! 4. If you had total freedom to do whatever you wanted to do (your kids and family and friends are all taken care of, you have all the money you want, and no physical limitation.) what ONE thing would you do right now, here, today? If I had the freedom to do whatever I wanted this minute and everyone would be fine, I would quit my current job and pursue new adventures and self love practices 5. If you had one piece of advice to give a mother who was struggling today, what would it be? (What would you have wanted to hear when you were having a tough time?) For any mom that struggles, knowing you are not alone is huge. Millions of moms have experienced and gotten thru these same mom hurdles and mom road blocks (easier said than done but true) so make friends with other moms, talk honestly and don’t think you can do it all! :) And lastly don’t try to be superhuman, let your kids see your emotions, that you feel and that you are not perfect :) you are mom! ______ Optional Questions: What city/state do you live in? Mount Pleasant, MI Approx age you had kids? 30s |
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